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Wishing you a stress-free Valentine’s Day!

St Valentin(e) must be beaming from the heavens above and rightly so; he would have never imagined that ‘his day of love’ would perhaps become the most celebrated day of love world over.

Personally, I love all the colour and charm associated with V-day; the sight of red and pink heart-shaped balloons, pudgy stuffed teddies, chocolates, flowers, valentine-eve dances (sigh)…. I could go on and on and on. Even web-sites offering express shopping and gifts are all bright and cheerful this time of the year. 

What I don’t like however is the stress that this commercialisation of love has brought with it? 

If I allow myself (very reluctantly) to rewind about 15 years or so to when I was a teen AND ‘Valentine-less’, this day would have been THE one where I would have prayed that the earth open up and swallow me whole (ok, I know that’s too melodramatic but seriously!).  I mean, I had no valentine right, not even one in-process, so all the colour and paraphernalia was just plain ‘painful’ and I’m talking about the late 90s where V-day wasn’t such a big deal anyways.  Even then I can guarantee that I would have had enough company in this ‘V-less’ induced sadness of mine.

Today, I’d be mortified if I were Valentine-less!  As are most youngsters who have this very distorted picture about Valentine’s Day. 

V-day is not just about boy-girl or romantic love BUT love in ALL its forms & glory.

Media sadly has added the stress element to this sweet and simple celebration of love; so instead of love being the core, the focus is now more on what one should buy to express love and how one should be, when in love. 

TV shows, radio, print media have all jumped onto this bandwagon and taken upon themselves the task to teach us all, ways and methods to express love; and since the easiest and most gullible target group is the ‘young ones in romantic love’, V-day has largely become about them. 

Finding that special someone is great and when it happens, it’s magic but that’s not the only form of love that we experience in our lives.  What about all that loving from parents, siblings, friends, teachers and even Mother Nature!!

And how can we forget, the most important love of all? Love of self which starts with accepting yourself as unique and thus incomparable; loving yourself with all your strengths and embracing your human imperfections.

Valentine is a celebration of all this love and there is so much love out there, the moment you decide to start loving yourself and open your heart and arms wide to it, you will see all these doors opening up for you as well.

So, go ahead and buy the valentine paraphernalia that you’ve been eyeing as a bystander all this while and start by being your own valentine.   

This Valentine’s day, make yourself a promise – throw the stress in the garbage-bin and tell yourself that you will NEVER be “Valentine-less” again because you are first and foremost your own Valentine.  

Happy V day everyone!!

Article wriitten by Priyanka

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The Stress Connection to Anxiety, Depression, and Suicide Ris Stress, Depression and coping skills.

Here is an insight on how eustress can become stress, leading to depression and subsequently clinical depression and how to cope with it.         

Stress need to be tackled with good coping skills. Healthy coping skills include things such as: talking to someone who cares, exercise, sports, reading, listening to music, doing something nice for someone else, talking to or spending time with pets, watching a good movie, spending time with a friend, going to your special place to think, developing a sense of humor and anything else that can have the effect of lifting your spirit. » Continue reading “The Stress Connection to Anxiety, Depression, and Suicide Ris Stress, Depression and coping skills.”

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Let go of stress Stress: identify, acknowledge & manage

Stress is the biggest villain in the modern day lifestyle. How to identify it, cope with it and manage it is a big challenge. Here is something we need to know.

Learn to recognize the symptoms and then work at finding solutions to deal with them.

Mala’s day began at 6.00 a.m. After supervising the maids, she would get her son ready for school and leave for work. As an ad manager, her day involved meetings and setting new targets. She ended up working 16 hours a day with endless cups of tea, a sandwich at lunch and be exhausted by the time she got home. Dinner was a bowl of soup from a packet. Is Mala’s life heading towards a disaster? » Continue reading “Let go of stress Stress: identify, acknowledge & manage”

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Gossiping lowers stress levels your way to destress.

It is always said that if a women is allowed to talk, half her ailment reduces. This seems true since a study shows gossiping relieves stress.

Women love a good gossip, and now we don’t need to feel guilty as scientists claim idle chit-chat benefits both the gossiper and society.The team from the University of California, Berkeley say gossiping can help control bad behaviour, prevent someone being exploited and even lower stress levels. » Continue reading “Gossiping lowers stress levels your way to destress.”

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Care of the cCaregiver

Care giving comes in all shapes and sizes for the 60 million Americans providing care for a relative, but it seems that there is one common thread: stress.

Caregiver burnout can have serious, even fatal, consequences. Here are tips for helping prevent burnout:

  • Breathe deeply and relax. When we feel stressed, we tense our bodies and our breathing becomes quick and shallow. This makes us more stressed and anxious, causing us to tighten up even more. Deep breaths will help you relax and break this cycle of tension.
  • Divide the issues into manageable pieces. If your responsibilities feel overwhelming, it can help to break them down into smaller chunks. Dealing with the pieces individually won’t seem so difficult. Make a list of the issues and tasks, and think about them one at a time.
  • Give yourself treats. Do things that replenish your inner resources, both mentally and physically. They do not have to be expensive or time-consuming. Take 10 minutes to do something you enjoy, something that is just for you. It will help you avoid feeling resentful.
  • Keep your sense of humor. Even in tough situations, do what you can to see the lighter side. It is worth setting aside time to do something just because it is fun — especially if it makes you laugh. Laughter is not a luxury; it is a remedy for stress and overload. » Continue reading “Care of the cCaregiver”

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Writing eases emotional issues

Many people understand the relationship but when they have to write, they get depressed. That might have been the situation when they were in school, diagramming sentences and writing with many guidelines and restrictions. But writing can help ease depression. Writing can help improve a number of emotional and even physical illnesses. » Continue reading “Writing eases emotional issues”

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Mobile phone use and stress, sleep disturbances, and symptoms of depression among young adults – a prospective cohort study

Background

Because of the quick development and widespread use of mobile phones, and their vast effect on communication and interactions, it is important to study possible negative health effects of mobile phone exposure. The overall aim of this study was to investigate whether there are associations between psychosocial aspects of mobile phone use and mental health symptoms in a prospective cohort of young adults. » Continue reading “Mobile phone use and stress, sleep disturbances, and symptoms of depression among young adults – a prospective cohort study”

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Keep work stress out of your relationship

Often stressful work seeps into your personal relationships making it difficult to balance between the two. We share some ways to ease out and keep the spark alive in your relationship…

  • Everyday hassles and emotional issues cause stress in relationships.
  • Often couples go through periods of change.
  • Stress at work is deemed to be one of the major reasons for this turmoil.
  • Pooja Desai, 25, Investment banker, says, “My job is so stressful that by the time I reach home, I am left with no energy to spend quality time with my partner and this often leads to serious fights.”
  • We all have stress in our lives, be it job related, marital, financial or otherwise which often causes uncomfortable mental and physical reactions to events in life.
  • Communication is very important as Devang Shah, Media professional, says, “Work keeps me occupied most of the time. This has hampered my relationship greatly. There is hardly any time to go out with my partner and it is very difficult to explain always.”
  • Since you cannot avoid the stress at work, recognising and managing stress is crucial. Find a way to converse about what causes stress with your partner and this will help you a great deal. Not only will this make your relationship stronger but at the end of the day, you will feel relieved and satisfied. » Continue reading “Keep work stress out of your relationship”

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According to experts stressful life can lead to early menopause

A section of Gynecologists have warned that they have seen a perceptible rise in the number of early menopausal cases in the city in the last couple of years, feel here who attribute it to the increasingly stressful lifestyle and obesity arising due to junk foods. » Continue reading “According to experts stressful life can lead to early menopause”

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Stress in parent’s lives can be detrimental to the kids

Author of Kids Pick Up on Everything: How Parental Stress is Toxic to Kids, David Code also an Episcopal minister says stress is highly contagious and parental stress can weaken the development of a child’s brain or immune system, increasing the risk of allergies, obesity or mental disorders.He added that the greatest gift a parent can give today to his child is a healthy relationship with other adults. » Continue reading “Stress in parent’s lives can be detrimental to the kids”

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