8 Feb 12, Wednesday: Mumbai Mirror, pages 11 “school suspends student for henna hands”

You know that we are not doing something right when our kids are ‘traumatised and scarred’ by disciplinary action that schools take when they break rules. In this case however, it’s the parents and not the little toddler who needs to take the rap.

I am all for unconditional loving and supporting our children and believe that these are core ingredients which go a long way in shaping them into independent and confident adults.

But are we taking things a tad far and raising our kids to have zero resilience? Are they having things so easy that they are mentally unable to withstand even the minor falls? » Continue reading “8 Feb 12, Wednesday: Mumbai Mirror, pages 11 “school suspends student for henna hands””

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Wishing you a stress-free Valentine’s day!

St Valentin(e) must be beaming from the heavens above and rightly so; he would have never imagined that ‘his day of love’ would perhaps become the most celebrated day of love world over.

Personally, I love all the colour and charm associated with V-day; the sight of red and pink heart-shaped balloons, pudgy stuffed teddies, chocolates, flowers, valentine-eve dances (sigh)…. I could go on and on and on.  Even web-sites offering express shopping and gifts are all bright and cheerful this time of the year.

What I don’t like however is the stress that this commercialisation of love has brought with it? » Continue reading “Wishing you a stress-free Valentine’s day!”

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Wishing you a stress-free Valentine’s Day!

St Valentin(e) must be beaming from the heavens above and rightly so; he would have never imagined that ‘his day of love’ would perhaps become the most celebrated day of love world over.

Personally, I love all the colour and charm associated with V-day; the sight of red and pink heart-shaped balloons, pudgy stuffed teddies, chocolates, flowers, valentine-eve dances (sigh)…. I could go on and on and on. Even web-sites offering express shopping and gifts are all bright and cheerful this time of the year. 

What I don’t like however is the stress that this commercialisation of love has brought with it? 

If I allow myself (very reluctantly) to rewind about 15 years or so to when I was a teen AND ‘Valentine-less’, this day would have been THE one where I would have prayed that the earth open up and swallow me whole (ok, I know that’s too melodramatic but seriously!).  I mean, I had no valentine right, not even one in-process, so all the colour and paraphernalia was just plain ‘painful’ and I’m talking about the late 90s where V-day wasn’t such a big deal anyways.  Even then I can guarantee that I would have had enough company in this ‘V-less’ induced sadness of mine.

Today, I’d be mortified if I were Valentine-less!  As are most youngsters who have this very distorted picture about Valentine’s Day. 

V-day is not just about boy-girl or romantic love BUT love in ALL its forms & glory.

Media sadly has added the stress element to this sweet and simple celebration of love; so instead of love being the core, the focus is now more on what one should buy to express love and how one should be, when in love. 

TV shows, radio, print media have all jumped onto this bandwagon and taken upon themselves the task to teach us all, ways and methods to express love; and since the easiest and most gullible target group is the ‘young ones in romantic love’, V-day has largely become about them. 

Finding that special someone is great and when it happens, it’s magic but that’s not the only form of love that we experience in our lives.  What about all that loving from parents, siblings, friends, teachers and even Mother Nature!!

And how can we forget, the most important love of all? Love of self which starts with accepting yourself as unique and thus incomparable; loving yourself with all your strengths and embracing your human imperfections.

Valentine is a celebration of all this love and there is so much love out there, the moment you decide to start loving yourself and open your heart and arms wide to it, you will see all these doors opening up for you as well.

So, go ahead and buy the valentine paraphernalia that you’ve been eyeing as a bystander all this while and start by being your own valentine.   

This Valentine’s day, make yourself a promise – throw the stress in the garbage-bin and tell yourself that you will NEVER be “Valentine-less” again because you are first and foremost your own Valentine.  

Happy V day everyone!!

Article wriitten by Priyanka

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6 Feb 12, Sunday: the Times of India, pages 1 & 12, “Meet India’s 1st transgender pastor”

Congratulations India; we seem to be finally doing things worthy of the 22nd century.  A church on the outskirts of Chennai has a transgender priest, kudos that people who are ‘different’ are gaining acceptance in our society.  It’s a sign that we are finally learning to be tolerant.

Ideally, with the tremendous economic growth that India has seen over the years one would assume that the country would grow emotionally too; but sadly, we have failed to grow our EQ (emotional quotient) at the same rate. » Continue reading “6 Feb 12, Sunday: the Times of India, pages 1 & 12, “Meet India’s 1st transgender pastor””

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2 Feb 12, Thursday: the Times of India, pages 1 & 7, “before exams, city kids most stressed in India”

It was heartening to see that this issue finally found first page mention; what was also commendable is the effort to collate statistics on the youngsters’ state of mind pre-exam and the acknowledgment that ‘exam-fever’ is indeed a reality.

While the effort must be lauded, it needs tackling at the very root.  » Continue reading “2 Feb 12, Thursday: the Times of India, pages 1 & 7, “before exams, city kids most stressed in India””

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The Stress Connection to Anxiety, Depression, and Suicide Ris Stress, Depression and coping skills.

Here is an insight on how eustress can become stress, leading to depression and subsequently clinical depression and how to cope with it.         

Stress need to be tackled with good coping skills. Healthy coping skills include things such as: talking to someone who cares, exercise, sports, reading, listening to music, doing something nice for someone else, talking to or spending time with pets, watching a good movie, spending time with a friend, going to your special place to think, developing a sense of humor and anything else that can have the effect of lifting your spirit. » Continue reading “The Stress Connection to Anxiety, Depression, and Suicide Ris Stress, Depression and coping skills.”

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Let go of stress Stress: identify, acknowledge & manage

Stress is the biggest villain in the modern day lifestyle. How to identify it, cope with it and manage it is a big challenge. Here is something we need to know.

Learn to recognize the symptoms and then work at finding solutions to deal with them.

Mala’s day began at 6.00 a.m. After supervising the maids, she would get her son ready for school and leave for work. As an ad manager, her day involved meetings and setting new targets. She ended up working 16 hours a day with endless cups of tea, a sandwich at lunch and be exhausted by the time she got home. Dinner was a bowl of soup from a packet. Is Mala’s life heading towards a disaster? » Continue reading “Let go of stress Stress: identify, acknowledge & manage”

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Gossiping lowers stress levels your way to destress.

It is always said that if a women is allowed to talk, half her ailment reduces. This seems true since a study shows gossiping relieves stress.

Women love a good gossip, and now we don’t need to feel guilty as scientists claim idle chit-chat benefits both the gossiper and society.The team from the University of California, Berkeley say gossiping can help control bad behaviour, prevent someone being exploited and even lower stress levels. » Continue reading “Gossiping lowers stress levels your way to destress.”

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Care of the cCaregiver

Care giving comes in all shapes and sizes for the 60 million Americans providing care for a relative, but it seems that there is one common thread: stress.

Caregiver burnout can have serious, even fatal, consequences. Here are tips for helping prevent burnout:

  • Breathe deeply and relax. When we feel stressed, we tense our bodies and our breathing becomes quick and shallow. This makes us more stressed and anxious, causing us to tighten up even more. Deep breaths will help you relax and break this cycle of tension.
  • Divide the issues into manageable pieces. If your responsibilities feel overwhelming, it can help to break them down into smaller chunks. Dealing with the pieces individually won’t seem so difficult. Make a list of the issues and tasks, and think about them one at a time.
  • Give yourself treats. Do things that replenish your inner resources, both mentally and physically. They do not have to be expensive or time-consuming. Take 10 minutes to do something you enjoy, something that is just for you. It will help you avoid feeling resentful.
  • Keep your sense of humor. Even in tough situations, do what you can to see the lighter side. It is worth setting aside time to do something just because it is fun — especially if it makes you laugh. Laughter is not a luxury; it is a remedy for stress and overload. » Continue reading “Care of the cCaregiver”

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Writing eases emotional issues

Many people understand the relationship but when they have to write, they get depressed. That might have been the situation when they were in school, diagramming sentences and writing with many guidelines and restrictions. But writing can help ease depression. Writing can help improve a number of emotional and even physical illnesses. » Continue reading “Writing eases emotional issues”

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